It’s been expressed by numerous women here, most recently by Sara, the writer of the letter in yesterday’s post, that sitting out the casual sex scene in college means getting very little male attention. She said:
Guys I feel no attraction to creepily hitting on me constantly simply trying to sleep with me that night, I don’t think I will meet a truly nice guy at a bar or a party…At this point, I think I will be waiting until after graduation to really meet the guys I even want to date at all. I am fine with it, but it is hard to choose that road when all of your friends are dating and crushing on boys, and it does get lonely. I know that choosing this road I will be stronger in the long run, but I often-times feel left out of the whole thing.
Sara is not alone; her feelings are typical of many young women in college who want a relationship, not a random hookup. It’s not surprising that many frustrated young women wind up dropping panties while drunk, hoping for the best, just to be included, part of the scene, having a normal college experience.
What many women fail to realize is that being “chosen” by a guy for the purpose of hooking up says little about her worth, or her attractiveness relative to her peers, even in his eyes. Men’s standards for hooking up are extremely low, as they will readily admit.
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Consider the following question I came across on a guy’s poker forum two days ago. The writer is apparently a college hockey player. It’s not pretty, but it’s an interesting peek behind closed doors.
Here’s how guys really feel about the girls they hook up with:
From: BigEarn
HOW BAD IS THIS, HOOKUP WISE?
So I have always prided myself on having standards. I haven’t had a gf in years but I like to think that I consistently hook up with 7s or so on a pretty regular basis.
Anyways, lately I have been hooking up with this girl whose probably like a 5.5-6 but we only hookup when I am completely hammered and if nothing else pans out for me during the night. Is this ok? Should I stop this? I wouldn’t want people to see me out with this girl, shes tall,skinny, decent body but her face is kind of a disaster. She has summer-teeth… Some go this way, some go that way. (Pauly D – Jersey Shore reference). Her performance in bed is definitely solid but I think I need to just delete her number.
I’m looking for some thoughts on the situation here.
Ouch. The responses:
1. do we even have to say?
2. seriously wtf is your problem. pics or stfu/gtfo etc
3.
4. standards are for high schoolers
5. Beauty is a lightswitch away
6. If you arent trying to marry the girl and she knows that then who gives a fuck?
7. Plan B:
8. ewwww a 5.5-6?? if she was 6-6.5 I’d say mayyyyybe, but anything below a 6.75-8.2384 I say gtfo you ugly whorebitch.
9. keep on banging, justify it as << giving back to humanity>>
10. If you both understand this is drunken weekend happy time and you’re not involved….And you think it’s better than rubbing one out….And she thinks it’s better than rubbing one out….Then who fucking cares?
11. If she’s a 5 then I bet 90% of us would hit it
BigEarn responds:
Eh, I clearly said this one wasn’t hot and I bang 7s or so, not claiming to be tagging supermodels here. I make these posts because i’m sure most of you have been in similar situations and I like to hear what others have to say. I guess I just enjoy giving advice/responding to posts like this because quite frankly I find women and dealing with them very interesting.
I’m not insecure but I do get some self-satisfaction out of trying to work new girls, but then again who doesn’t? As I’ve posted in the past (years ago) my one real relationship was a complete disaster and I ended up heartbroken and after that hurt finally went away I guess i’m just a lot wiser and somewhat jaded when it comes to females.